Tip Tuesday: Stop saying, "I'm sorry." Here's how.
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This week we continue season three of Tammy Talk TV and discuss word magic and how we can avoid casting dark spells on ourselves by paying attention to our words.
Stop saying, "I'm sorry." Here's how.
I believe the most over-used phrase in the English language is, “I’m sorry.” Think about the message that phrase sends to yourself. “I’m sorry.”
• Are you really sorry when you accidentally step in front of a stranger?
• Are you actually sorry when you interrupt someone’s coffee break?
• Are you truly sorry when your children don’t like what you made for dinner?
Not only does this send a demeaning message to your internal dialogue, but it diminishes the effectiveness of the phrase itself. When we say sorry 50 times a day, we dilute its actual meaning and intent.
Try to substitute “I’m sorry,” with, “I apologize, or excuse me,” which are usually far more appropriate.
Adding insult to injury
The term, “I’m sorry,” should be reserved for times when you’ve caused actual physical, psychological, or emotional pain. And even in those instances, be sure to just apologize. Anytime we follow an apology with “but,” “if,” or “however,” it negates the actual apology.
• “I’m sorry, but you shouldn’t have done that.”
• “I’m sorry, however, I don’t know what you expected.”
• “I’m sorry, but you would have done the same thing.”
• “I’m sorry if you think I was unkind.”
If you are tempted to use this kind of language, remember: You have the right to remain silent.
To truly demonstrate that you are sorry, follow an apology with a request for forgiveness.
• “I’m sorry I lost my temper and yelled at you. Will you forgive me?” --Excerpt from The Everyday Vacay e-Seminar Series
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